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Auspicious wedding dates in 2014

Auspicious Wedding Dates 2014above image credit to PerfectWeddings.sg

If you are planning your wedding in the year 2014, and believe in the Chinese Zodiac Animals closely, you may wish to refer to the above dates for reference. However true it may be, will be how one determines their marriage life to be. If it meant to be, it will meant to be.

In Singapore, since our ancestors’ time, the idea of selecting a wedding date has crossed many cultures besides the traditional Chinese. Many consultants derive the auspicious wedding dates through the couple’s exact dates and times of birth, years of birth and animal horoscopes of the couple’s parents and the month and year that the couple plans to get married on. Consultants may give advice such as avoiding people with a particular animal zodiac group when they first enter and leave the bride’s house.

If you are getting married and would like to find out the dates that a traditional Chinese couple follow, below are the dates that you may note:

Auspicious Wedding Dates (吉日)

~ ROM Wedding Date (Zhu Ce Ji Ri, 注册吉日)
~ Traditional Wedding Date (Hun Jia Ji Ri, 婚嫁吉日)
~ Betrothal Date (Guo Da Li Ji Ri, 过大礼吉日)
~ Hair Combing Date (Shang Tou Ji Ri, 上头吉日)
~ Bed Setting Date (An Chuang Ji Ri, 安床吉日)

Consultants may also give the exact hour (Ji Shi, 吉時) in addition to the auspicious wedding dates which are applicable to the Tea Ceremonies (Jing Cha, 敬茶) and Fetching of Bride to Groom’s House (Xin Niang Ru Men, 新娘入門) since they fall on the same day with the Traditional Wedding Date.

Generally, in the Chinese Lunar Calendar, the first and fifteenth day of the month are known to be auspicious date and the seventh month is known to be inauspicious due to the belief of the hungry ghost festival falling on the seventh month of the lunar calendar.

More importantly, it is good to find a date that both families and couple agree upon due to the beliefs that may or may not be different.

饮水思源

饮水思源

I’m very much a Asian Chinese guy. I guess it is not about how my skin color is but however, I stay to remember the words, 饮水思源. It means to remember your roots. If you are a tree bearing fruits, you need to remember the roots that help to provide the nutrients and helped you grow the strong and mighty you today. It didn’t come easy but you made it to be the big tree.

I was asked a year ago and a few months back to join a couple of video production companies, one of which does events highlights videography and the other does primarily wedding videography. Both companies that approached me are doing well and offered me a salary with at least S$1,000 more than what I am earning now, probably close to what I was getting as a finance manager back in the days at the University that I used to work. If I can get paid at a higher rate and do what I like, why not right?

The reason is simple. 饮水思源. Remembering your roots. I believe in this and the brotherhood of gangs that you see in Chinese films like 大上海. I have learnt alot from the company that I am in and am doing well improving and learning each day. I am glad that I am a part of them doing our best to craft the finest filmography. Well, I guess when you remember your roots, it also does show how much loyalty or faith anyone can have on this one person’s character also. That said, if the current predicament is stagnant and I am not growing or happy, I would definitely need to look out for better opportunities and this goes the same for everyone who reads this. It is a kind of responsibility to myself and of course, to continue to pay tribute and gratitude to the people who brought me far.

If you think that you are not growing in the company that you are working for, and not being valued as you should be, make the smart move and move on. Don’t wait till everyone that knows you tell you to. This is your life and have no whatsoever regrets in the path that you choose to take. Live each day and grow stronger, knowledgeable into the better you. Only when you make decisions for yourself, you will start to love life itself.

Getting things right

Michael Cimino, well known American filmmaker aged 74 known for his Academy award winning film, The deer hunter. Not forgetting his biggest box office bomb after The deer hunter, Heaven’s Gate. I have yet to see the film, Heaven’s Gate but read reviews that it is not a bad piece like critics would have pinned it to be. Michael Cimino was written to be a dictator of a director and that there were killings of animals to make the 1980s film. The original cut was 219 minutes long and the revised cut which was aired much later at a cable TV was at 148 minutes which gave a better rating than the original.

What I found about the quote, “If you don’t get it right, what’s the point?” very true for us filmmakers be it in the wedding industry or any kind of work that we do. If you were to spend hours and hours to do something. Like in the case of Michael Cimino, he overran his budget several times to do a masterpiece which became a flop in box office. He stood by his beliefs at the cost of the ticket sales. Hence, to do anything right in the budgeted time span and cost, one has to first be good in his craft. If you are not good at what you do, why begin in the first place.

Pre-planning and  accounting for the work to be done before execution is also important. If the budget given is only so much to make a film and there’s only XX hours to film it, make full use of it and try your best to make it as right as anyone could have make it to be.

Here’s ending off with a trailer of the movie, Heaven’s Gate.

Good and Bad Cinema

Iranian director, Abbas Kiarostami who directed LIke Someone in Love, a French-Japanese film that competed in the 2012 Cannes Film Festival has the above to say about Good and Bad Cinema. To add, bad cinema may just be shots or cuts that doesn’t make any story flow. No continuity, no meaning to the film. Every shot has no purpose or direction that doesn’t help in the story telling process of the film. Good Cinema doesn’t force you to believe that what you are viewing is real. You just get engross in it and choose to let your imagination run wild while being sink into it.

Guests, please put your cameras down or at the very least, stay within your seats to take pictures.

Guests, please put your cameras down or at the very least, stay within your seats to take pictures. Yes. I do have my fair share of uncle Bobs and auntie Janes coming around during weddings to get into the action to take photos or videos during weddings.

During my meet ups with couple, I encourage them to have their guests for their wedding to stay within their seats while taking pictures or videos if they must as with new technology, almost everyone has a camera within their reach.

I am fine even if at the end of the day, the photos or video did not turn out as good as it could be due to the fact that the couple allowed Bob and Jane to help cover the wedding. In a recent wedding, I have informed the emcee during the rehearsal and on the actual day about informing the guests to stay within their seats during the church ceremony if they wish to take photos/video. Instead, on the actual day, the emcee informed me that they will not announce it as the couple who was aware, were sure that Bob and Jane will not be moving up to take photos/videos because it did not happened in the past ceremonies. and the guests were known to be very orderly. In the end, I’m sure everyone knows what happened. (:

If you are getting married and have spent thousands of dollars on videography and photography for your wedding day, please help yourself by inviting your guests to enjoy themselves and not working part time as a photographer or videographer.

Please do not regret if all the cuts and photos you see in your video has uncle bob or auntie Jane.

Here’s leaving a video to explain it all.

Advice to Young Filmmakers by Sam Raimi

Samuel M Raimi, American film director known for his work of the Spiderman Trilogy and the recent, Oz the Great and Powerful.

If you continue to make films regardless it being good or bad, as long as you learn from experience and grow from there, you will be a great filmmaker eventually. I guess this also applies in all the things that you are pursuing for also. Keep doing the good work and you will get there.